weak against the weakness !!!

Each one of us wants to see our partner as perfect, without any weakness or vice,
in perfect sync with our own personalities, and aligned to our thoughts.
Such is the effect of love that it not only helps you overlook any flaws in the person
one loves,but also makes the person not perceive the faults or weaknesses in his
beloved at all. Love smooths out all the jagged edges in the loved one's personality,
well at least for a while.

Love is all accommodating and that's why it is said that to love truly is to love
every thing about your beloved. Physical attributes, mental strength, traits of
personality, tastes, preferences, habits,mannerism, all ceases to exist in parts,
and there emerges a unified image of the person being loved. That is why it is in
all fairness , fine to love her hair, or her smile, or the joy of her eyes or the crackle
in her voice, Its not fair to claim to be in love with her only for all or any of these
reasons. Love her for who she is, and not for what she is . And similarly,
love him for who he is , and not what he is.

All of us want our lovers to understand whatever we say, as well as whatever
we don't say.But love requires you to not expect him to understand, but to
ensure that he does. NO matter how inflammable a torch, there can be no light
without that first spark. NO matter how understanding the guy , he can never
understand every single thing unless there is an effort to make him understand.

Love can at times be blinding too, and that's when it becomes self destructing.
With time things, that we did do, or did not do, when the relationship was new
and fragile, tend to creep in to our behavior, so strongly that they become a
norm in our behaviors towards our loved.While he might now be a part of
your life close enough to be able to hear what you never earlier said, to
understand fears and feelings that you never earlier shared and to ask things
he never earlier did, so closed and rigid are you in you self laid guidelines
for your behaviors towards him,that you neither can comply to him nor lay to
rest his natural inquisitiveness, yet never lose the feeling of all being well
with him.

Almost always, the reason for rift is when one partner fails to see the other's
reason for discomfort.W the reasons could be as simple as some thing you
often say , to as complex as your reluctance to work your way out of your
self acknowledged weakness. I for instance cant see my partner resigned
to the fact that she would need support to do things, or that she is help less
in a particular situation, or that there is no other choice. To have a heart
big enough to love, means to have courage to face "come what may", with
your partner, or all by your self. Here is where the love cuts both ways.
So while he is trying to shock or push or shove or help you out of a self imposed
barrier, and getting frustrated at your reluctance,you are reluctant to
acknowledge the problem and think he is just being ignorant and finicky.


Love brings with itself the comfort and confidence of being your natural self
with your partner, as well as letting him be.But we more often then not take
this too far and start turning a blind eye even where one needs to change.
While its nice to hear that in love every thing about your partner seems perfect,
It would be a cardinal sin, to just go with this though and not try any help your
partner get better. I believe in a idle scenario , a motivation to get better for your
loved one, must come from with in , but there is no harm if one needs to be
driven by her partner. I for instance firmly believe in the cliche that my partner
makes me wanna be a better man.

Love is not all about charm of the person and a ever lasting longing, its also about
dealing with disagreements and repulsions. While to shut off and let the opponent
shout him self hoarse would be a good strategy any where else, this can never
ever work in a relationship. firstly for the fact that there is no opponent here.
Only a part of you thats differing from you.If you can not put across your point
to some one who essentially is an extension of your own self, you are essentially
unable to talk to your own inner self.

While its very easy keeping happy in love, its very difficult keeping the love in you happy
and healthy.